Every day I get an automated e-mail from one of the coolest sites on the internet. Well, it’s cool if you’re a total nerd like me. The website is www.visualthesaurus.com/, and the e-mail sends me a word-of-the-day, every day. Something freakishly dorky I can count on. The word a couple of weeks ago was “nostalgia,” and ever since then I’ve been thinking about nostalgia, what it means to moi, and how much I love it.
Merriam-Webster defines nostalgia as, “a wistful or excessively sentimental yearning for return to or of some past period or irrecoverable condition.” It can also mean “the state of being homesick,” but for the purpose of this post, I’d like to focus on the first definition. Because the second definition is stupid. Also, let me backtrack for a second. I love nostalgia and I hate the negative connotation of the first definition. Excessive? Sentimental? Whatever. As long as the yearning doesn’t interfere with the memories you’re making now which, let’s face it, are just going to induce more fits of nostalgia in the next decade, then nostalgia is a good, fun, beautiful thing. Looking to the past fondly and yearning to live those good moments over is a positive way to remember what you love about your life thus far.
But it can cause problems. Inevitably. You can spend too much time living in the past and quit looking to the future. Or you can be like me and create nostalgia for things that never even happened to you. You can become nostalgic by proxy because of film, books, music, etc. And damn it if I don’t do this in a major way. There are some movies that no matter how many times I watch and tell myself, “These aren’t your memories! That isn’t your life!” I empathize nostalgia with the characters and long for the feelings they feel. I equate those feelings with my life and search for my own memories. Or I create my own nostalgic moments in time based on watching these films and feeling nostalgic. It’s confusing, right?
It’s also quite interesting and I love the way watching nostalgic films makes me feel. Just another idiosyncratic thing about me. Number 17 of about 2,500. In order to celebrate my weirdness, here are five of my favorite films that make me feel an excess of nostalgia.
1) The Big Chill: I know that these characters come together because of a funeral, but it looks like so much fun. They’re hanging out, reminiscing about the past, trying to get pregnant or trying just to get laid. The whole time I watch this movie (and I’ve seen it at least a dozen times) about a group of best friends from college spending the weekend together in this old, Southern house, all I can think is, “Man, how much fun that must have been.”
2) Almost Famous: I want to be a fifteen-year-old reporter for Rolling Stone. I want to learn lessons about life and love on the road with a working band that’s making good. I want to make out with Penny Lane. Okay, that last one was just to make sure you’re still reading. But this movie drips with nostalgia (as most memoirs do), and I can’t help but covet young William Miller’s memories while watching this movie. Because being a teenager in California in the early 70s must have rocked.
3) Labyrinth: Um, who doesn’t want to run around a huge maze filled with crazy characters while looking for fine-as-hell David Bowie? Also, I saw this movie when I was eight-years-old at my grandfather’s house while eating garbanzo beans… Which is a weird memory, but this film will always remind me of that.
4) Kicking and Screaming: (The Baumbach movie, not that piece of shit with Will Ferrel and Mike Ditka.) Grover is a writer who has no idea what to do now that he’s graduated but he does know that he loves a woman and that he’s getting kind of sick of his friends. Um, did someone write a movie about me right after undergrad? My brother and I love to watch this movie at the end of a night of drinking. So whenever I watch it I think of that, too.
5) Five Easy Pieces: Robert Dupea is one of the most fascinating characters ever to appear on screen, and watching him drift through life on his own terms is both inspiring and heartbreaking. I’ll never forget the way I felt the first time I saw this movie, especially the final scene which I’m always debating the meaning of to myself. This movie makes me feel nostalgic for the times in life when I’ve been both sublimely happy and completely depressed.
Anyway, folks, there’s something for you to chew on. I’d love to hear about your favorite nostalgia-inspiring movies and why you find them so. Have a lovely Wednesday:)